Following
are leading reasons behind the breakage of marriage. Suitable ways to avoid the
issues have also been advised. After understanding these problems and learning
about the remedies, couples can lead a happy marital life.
DOMESTIC
VIOLENCE:
It is one of the basic
reasons for divorce. Large number of divorces are due to domestic violence. In
addition to husband, other family members from in-laws are also involved in
physical torture upon the women. Many women show patience to save their marriage
bondage. However, it becomes un-bearable if done repeatedly as there is limit
to everything. In most of the cases, women shift to their parents’ houses and
urge for divorce. Educated women speak and resist against such atrocities. A
few women register complaints regarding mis-treatment by their husbands. Often,
conflicts are resolved between the families. However, in various cases divorce
culminates the tie of marriage.
FINANCIAL
ISSUES:
Unemployment
is a grave issue throughout the globe. Life can not run smoothly due to lack of
financial resources. Husband is duty bound to meet the financial needs of his
family. Scarce opportunities of earning badly affect the budget of poor
families. As such, it becomes hard to run the expenses of house. This leads to differences
in the family. Huge number of divorce cases filed by women is due to the reason
that their husbands are unable to run the household expenses. Provision of
courage and helping hands by the women may alleviate the gravity of financial
issues.
EXTRA
MARITAL AFFAIRS:
It is
common reason of divorce. No relation can sustain without faithfulness.
Presence of loyalty between husband and wife ensures successful marriage.
Either wife cheats the husband or husband is involved in illicit relationship,
it ends up with the termination of marriage. People are often found guilty
having extra marital affairs. There is need of sincerity among the couples.
CRITICISM
UPON PETTY MATTERS:
It leads
to mis-understanding between the couples. Men dislike the women, who oppose
their acts or argue upon the trivial matters. Women also do not like the men,
who unduly criticize them. Understanding between the spouses is necessary for
successful marriage. Many people possess the habit of arguing repeatedly, which
leads to difference of opinions. Personal dislike may deteriorate the
relationship between husband and wife. Pondering and analysis of matter before
saying anything may avoid many problems.
INFERTILITY
AND IMPOTENCY:
It is
commonly found reason for divorce in our society. If wife is infertile i.e. can
not produce children, parents of husband force him to have second marriage,
after divorcing the first wife. A considerable number of husbands give divorce
to their wives for not giving the birth to male child. Alternatively, if
husband is found impotent i.e. unable to produce children, sometimes wife
compromises to remain childless throughout the life.
LOW
PATIENCE:
Patience
is the key to success in all the fields of life. Marriage is not an easy
journey. It requires attention, care and tolerance. Especially, in case of
marriage, adaptation and synchronization by the couples to each other’s habits
becomes inevitable. Although it is difficult for women to acclimatize with the
new environment, it has to be managed.
EDUCATIONAL
DIFFERENCE:
Often
husbands have concerns from the wives, who are highly qualified or working
women. They think that their educated or job holder wives are pretending to be
superior. This dilemma may ruin the relationship between spouses. Difference of
education level and social status lead to major conflicts that may end the
marriage. Educated husbands also dislike the illiterate wives. Compatible match
making is the solution to this problem.
FORCED
MARRIAGES:
Marriage
can not be imposed on individuals whether male or female. Bond of marriage can
never strengthen without mutual willingness and understanding. Earlier, there
was no concept of taking consent especially from the females. Offer and
acceptance are basic essentials of marriage. Without these constituents,
marriage is merely a weak bond, liable to breakage. Before marriage, free
consent of bride and groom must be ensured to avoid problems arising later on.
JOINT
FAMILY SYSTEM:
Living in
joint family system is common in the sub-continent. Huge sized family means
interaction with large number of family members and greater work load of
household responsibilities. Now a days, educated and working women do not care
about the liabilities in joint family system. As a result, family members
complain about the rude behavior of such women. Conversely, women are also sick
of injustice from the in laws. Biased behavior from any side results in
differences. Therefore, wife starts demanding separate residence from the
husband. Resistance from the husband leads to conflicts. It is the beginning of
distance between husband and wife. With the passage of time, domestic fights
grow and lead to dispute between families of spouses. The end result is
dissolution of marriage. To avoid the issues, many trivial things need to be
tolerated in the family.
COMMUNICATION
PROBLEMS:
Poor
communication among the spouses is also a reason of divorce. For instance:
un-necessary arguing and unable to talk properly with each other. Lack of
understanding and doubt are root causes of negativity. It is a fact that there
are some disagreements which really never get resolved. Learning about how to
communicate more effectively by the couples may resolve different issues.
CONFLICTS UPON FAMILY RESPONSIBILITIES:
Couples have been found making
differences even upon routine family responsibilities such as child care,
discharge of family obligations, dealing with the relatives etc. which are
apparently minor issues. Regard for each other’s constructive ideas and
opinions may avoid such kind of issues.
AGE
DIFFERENCE:
Sometimes,
poor parents marry their young daughters with the old men because of their high
financial status. In such cases, difference of mentality between spouses leads
to severe issues. Similarly, old men demand for young girl’s proposals keeping
in view that young girl may be easily molded according to their family norms.
Wide difference of age between life partners may create mind-set difference. It
could become reason of divorce. Marriages among individuals of same age group
are often found successful.
